In search of Compassion

[piasharn]

My head hurts.

I just can't seem to get any answers out of some people, and it's starting to irritate me. (Truth be told, the entire thread is irritating me, but I knew all too well what I was getting into when I first got involved.) I feel like I'm beating a dead horse, even though it's a different person who starts this discussion every time it pops up. Even so, I end up saying the same things over and over, and it rarely seems to get through.

Still, did you honestly expect me to keep quiet on a topic titled "Why homosexuality etc. is wrong"?

Didn't think so ^^;;;

On the comforting side, most of the people involved have been very open-minded and accepting, and orchydconstyne (amoung others) has been tossing out some great facts and statistics. It's those few morons that just don't get it.

See, this is one of those areas (of self improvement) that I really need to work on. Oh, not my research and arguments. I've got those down fine. It's my attitude and how I come across. I'm afraid that I'm too harsh, and it turns people away. I still have a lot to learn about compassion. (It's easy to show it to those who agree with you, it's how you treat those who don't that is the true test.)

So I think it's time to light some inscence, pull out some books by the Dalai Lama and meditate on them for a while. I'm letting anger and frustration cloud my vision, which ends up doing more harm than good.

(No one said pacifism was easy.)

I need to release the anger without losing the passion. Part of it is that I'm just tired from working all week with little sleep, but I can't allow myself to use that as an excuse. I need to learn how to keep this subject from getting under my skin. I can't do any good, to myself or others, while in that state.

I have a long way to go before I can become the person I want to be.

Comments

[citizenjess.livejournal.com]

For what it's worth, your points are always well-articulated and researched, which I think is largely why people don't have anything to say to them. They really can't back up the accusations they've made, especially when it concerns something like homosexuality, when they're up against that. But I agree, the fact that that sort of thing keeps cropping up is disconcerting.

[piasharn.livejournal.com]

That's what I've tried to tell myself, but it's still a frustrating situation. Especially since I don't just want to educate people, I want to understand them. I can't do that, though, when they fail to elaborate on their beliefs.

In some ways, I'm glad that the subject keeps popping up. It gives me a chance to get the truth out to more people, and reinforce it in those who have heard it before. If it was the same person constantly starting up the subject, then I'd worry.

[orchydconstyne.livejournal.com]

But then you have a sister thread like "What Is A Fact" and Nae pops in there belittling those of us who use facts and websites to prove our side of the argument. No one uses books or lectures -- in fact, I can't remember any time in the last 3 years that I have been there that anyone *ever* used books or lectures to try and prove a point. And professors *can* be wrong.

*sighs* Threads like these make me want to leave ASMR. But, I have friends there and I feel the need to band with like-minded people and bring a social conscious to the CTA. People need to be less antiquated and get their asses into this century and know that just because they think it, does not make it right, legal, or accepted.

Phllllllbt.

[piasharn.livejournal.com]

And books can be just as wrong as websites on these matters. As I mentioned in that thread, I use websites simply for the fact that they are quick, easy and efficient.

I certainly know how you feel. After all, nothing will ever get changed if we just sit around and say nothing. It may be monotonous and frustrating, but at least we seem to be making some progress. (At least I hope we're making progress...)

[astarianjewel.livejournal.com]

This has absolutely nothing to do with the above post.

But I like the way your journal looks.

And upon investigating further, discovered that we have similiar literary interests.

So I must ask.. Have you read Order of the Pheonix yet? Or rather, completed it?

Jennifer

[piasharn.livejournal.com]

I'm glad that you like the journal ^_^

Yes, I finished Order of the Phoenix last week. I haven't posted on it yet because I need some time to reread it and think about it a bit more. (That, and I've been rather depressed over the Big Death. I know, it's just a children's series, but I tend to be overly emotional.)

I totally understand.

[astarianjewel.livejournal.com]

Actually, I find myself wondering if "The Big Death" is in fact a "Death" at all, or at least in the literal sense.

I've read on the spoiler sites that J.K. Rowling plans to unviel an entire realm beyond the wizarding world we know.. and that archeway, with the veil... That said named deceased fell into and dissapeared was never fully explained. Perhaps, in later books, we shall meet him again.

And I do hope so, because I too, am overly emotional.. and I was rather attatched to that particular character.

I thought the book was wonderful. Perhaps the best yet.. or one of the best.. But dark, and not necessarily a kid's kids book. If that makes sense.

I'm going to add you, if you don't mind.

Jen